Monthly Archives: March 2012

Involving fathers in pregnancy and birth

It’s great to get dads involved … right from the beginning

Involving Dads in pregnancy and birth has been shown to have immense benefits – for the dads, for the babies, and for the mums (and also helps towards simpler labours & births). So it’s great news to hear about a recent ’round table’ discussion that’s taken place and will feed into midwifery practice across the UK. Joanna Moorhead writes about its importance in the Guardian: read the article

‘ … Firstly, because a growing body of evidence is making it clear that fathers who are engaged in pregnancy and birth are more likely to remain engaged in their children’s lives. {bold type added by babiesknow, because this is crucial!}. Secondly, the roundtable heard, because mothers’ levels of satisfaction with their care in childbirth is affected to some extent by how well their partner was treated by the midwife. As one participant put it: “Respecting women matters and you don’t respect a woman if you don’t respect her man.” Thirdly, because fathers provided not only welcome but also extremely effective support to new mothers, especially in the postnatal period. That support could be invaluable, the roundtable was told, not only to the new mother and her baby, but also to the hard-pressed midwifery services…’

We’ll be watching the debate closely and finding out how it begins to filter into midwifery and NHS practice, particularly in respect of support for women and men through pregnancy. Our parenting courses in north London are directed to women and men in equal measures, so you’ll find that all the information on this site relates to you both – but there is one page devoted to dads in pregnancy, (no link) where you’ll find out how a baby is able to bond with their dad even before birth, and how important fathers are.

Anger management for toddlers?

Surfing around, found an article on Parent Dish about the problem in schools of Toddlers’ Anger. There is a call to set up separate referral centres for angry toddlers. And the comments at the end of the blog are largely biased towards reintroducing discipline in the form of ‘a clout round the back of the head’ or a ‘belt/cane’. Phew. Is that really the way to go?

I agree that caring for children well in the early years can help to reduce the likelihood of problems in the future – and it’s good to read Charlie Taylor’s views that adults need to be responsive to young children … but this seems to be where the agreement stops. Separate pupil referral centres for ‘angry’ youngsters? Continue reading